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I love my relationship with Perry.

This is not a list of things I love about Perry. That list would be long and lovely but its important to understand the difference. 

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To love a person is so different than loving the relationship you are in with them. 

When you truly love a person, you appreciate them for all their flaws and quirks, whether they are here or there. As long as they are happy, you are happy. 

The relationship is the part I love that creates the memories, the milestones, the photos and road trips. A relationship is having a person who takes you away to the mountains for the weekend and is there when your car has to get towed home. The relationship is where we get attached. Its also where we get hurt, by our own expectation of what that relationship should look like or act. 

Most of us don’t have a clear picture of what we want in a relationship, but a lot of “don’t wants.”

There’s a saying, “If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.” I think this is true in relationships too. We fall for someone because we think they are what we want or what we SHOULD want. Instead of shoulding on ourselves we should be very clear about what it is we want in a partner and how that feels. 

In the last week I had one friend say she feels best sleeping with her man every single night, while another girlfriend had an epiphany that maybe she didn’t ever want to live in the same house as her beloved. “Why does that have to be a thing?” she asked, totally serious. 

Why does it? Its a good question. We just assume that it’s the way it is and has to be because its been that way? I know a cute newlywed couple who live in two different parts of LA. (Probably because their commute to work was more stress than a first year of marriage?) Whatever works for you! 

That’s what I am saying. 

That’s what my love and I have been so gracefully figuring out over the last 10 months. What works for us? We moved to Mexico together on a whim after two months of dating. We had a blast. We moved back to San Diego and I traveled while he worked on his booming business. We love and support each other with ease, because we have created a relationship that works for us. We love to hear what the other one is up to but we don’t stress out if we don’t talk all day. We make fun plans together and apart. We keep our friendships we had and make new friends together. We allow each other space as well as support. Supportive space. We trust each other completely. 

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It was so nice when I was traveling, to call my man and hear his happy voice and an “I miss you” without guilt-trip undertones. 

He did miss me but he was happy because he knew I was happy and doing what I love. I miss him too and I wish I could have my man by my side for the adventures I go on, but I don’t look at it as “He isn’t meeting my needs” but “I’m so happy he is meeting his needs while I meet my own needs.”  I also deeply respect and value his commitment to his business, his business partner and his health.

I’ve traveled with, worked with and been in partnership with people who had little follow through on those things and its definitely a sexy quality to me. It even rubbed off on me in the best ways. I had planned to be in Tulum and Playa Del Carmen a few weeks ago for BPM Festival with some friends but felt like it was best to stay in San Diego and work on some very exciting projects. It would have been very hard for me in the past to turn down a trip but I felt confident my time was best spent in San Diego and it has paid off already. 

My relationship inspires me to be better. 

He shares his favorite meditations and podcasts with me. He sends me articles about mindfulness and managing stress. He cooks me healthy meals and reminds me how much I love yoga and surfing. He doesn’t ever tell me “I dont want a wife that does this” or “Thats not what someone in a relationship does” like a ex of mine used to always say. Perry pushes me to be the best version of myself, not the best version of what he wants. 

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Those are all things he does, because he loves me and because we are in a healthy relationship. Its been eye opening for me to understand that those are different than who he is as a person. To love someone is to love them without expectation but I love the relationship and now I have the expectation that he is going to continue to share his insights with me, to motivate me and support me. That is my expectation on the relationship and if that were to change I would be sad but could I still love the person without attachment or disappointment that he wasn’t acting like I want? 

That is the goal and the key to having a happy relationship for life. 

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A few months ago I went through a visualization of ending my relationship with Perry. I wanted to feel it, to experience it emotionally and imagine my life without him. I was so depressed and cried and already missed him, but I knew that I could survive without him and take with me the great lessons we have taught each other and love him from afar, if I needed to. I could let him go because I love him without the traditional, clingy, attachment kind of “love” we are taught to think is normal. He is not my everything. he is wonderful but I am a whole person without him by my side. I have my own business and friends and hobbies. It feels good to be so in love without the anxiety. I could not have reached this state of bliss, ease and happiness with a partner without the hard lessons learned in the past and a lot of meditation and journaling about what kind of relationship I wanted. 

Now I have it and I wish it for everyone in the world. Whatever that looks like. 

Love to you. 

Lindsay 

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Happy Pie Day! “Why is it Pie Day?” Well the date is March 13, or 3.14, also Pi (π) the ratio of a circle’s circumference to its diameter.

Call me nerdy for celebrating this day with one of my favorite decadent treats, but why not? It is a great excuse to indulge in America’s most infamous desert.

I have committed to eating much healthier and swore to kick my dessert addiction by finding acceptable replacements so I could still enjoy some of my favorite tasty pleasures.

Here are a few recipes for healthy, delicious pie!

Paleo Pie Crust: 

Ingredients:

  • 2/3 cup ground almonds
  • 1/3 cup coconut oil
  • ¼ tsp sea salt
  • 2 tbsp cold water

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 F
  2. Combine all ingredients except water
  3. Gradually add water to thicken dough
  4. Press into pie plate
  5. Pre-bake approximately 10 minutes, while arranging filling, or until lightly browned

The All American Classic APPLE PIE! (Gluten Free and Paleo!) by Ancestral Chef 

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Ingredients For the Filling:
  • 5 medium-sized apples, peeled and diced (granny smith or honeycrisp)
  • 4 tablespoons coconut oil
  • 1/2 cup raw honey
  • 1 tablespoon coconut flour
  • 2 teaspoons cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon nutmeg
  • 1/8 teaspoon cloves
  • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract
Directions for the Filling:
  1. Melt the coconut oil in a pot on medium heat.
  2. Add the honey, apples, and spices.
  3. Stir the mixture to cover the apples with the oil, honey, and spices.
  4. Add in the coconut flour and mix well.
  5. Add in the vanilla extract and turn off the heat.
  6. Leave to cool for 10 minutes.
Making the Pie:
  1. Preheat the oven to 350F.
  2. Spoon in the apple pieces and sauce into the pie crust.
  3. Cover the pie with the strips of pastry, creating the lattice. Press a fork along the edge to push the pastry down.
  4. Bake for 25 minutes.
  5. Serve hot or cold.

Healthy Pumpkin Pie (KILLER GOOD!) by the Healthy Foodie

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Ingredients:
  • 1½ cup graham flour
  • ½ cup old fashioned rolled oats
  • 75g crushed pecans
  • ¼ cup raisins
  • 2 tbsp coconut oil
  • 2 tbsp liquid honey
  • 1 tbsp blackstrap molasses
  • ¼ cup unsweetened applesauce
  • ½ tsp salt
  • ½ tsp ground cinnamon
  • ¼ tsp ginger
  • ¼ tsp allspice
Filling
  • 3 cups pumpkin puree
  • ½ cup 0% fat Greek yogurt
  • 1 cup 1% fat cottage cheese
  • 1 cup buttermilk
  • 2 whole eggs
  • ½ cup egg whiles (or 4 egg whites)
  • ¼ cup maple syrup
  • 2 tbsp blackstrap molasses
  • 3 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp each: allspice, ginger, freshly grated nutmeg
  • ½ tsp ground clove
  • ½ tsp salt
Crumble (do NOT leave that out… it just adds so much to the pie)
  • 30g crushed pecans
  • ¼ cup oats
  • ¼ tsp cinnamon
  • 2 tbsp raisins, chopped
  • 1 tbsp maple syrup
Most importantly, share with friends and loved ones and enjoy!

 

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Thanks to my new Jay Kordich juicer and my health Jedi master, Drew Canole at FitLife.TV, I have been juicing fresh veggies and fruits almost daily since the start of 2013. On top of my new clean eating habits and daily exercise, I have found juicing has made a significant improvement in my life lately.

I have more energy; I wake up more refreshed, happier and excited to start the day with a juice!

I have been following the delicious recipes online and from Drew’s best selling book, but I decided to make my own concoction to share with you.  In honor of flu season and my travels coming up in a few days, I wanted to boost my immune system with some extra Vitamin C.

Forget flu shots, you can keep yourself healthy by knowing nature’s best kept secrets!

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“The Happy Flu Fighter”

4 leaves of kale – Kale is full of so many good things! Iron, calcium, potassium, vitamins, minerals, fiber and detoxifies your system. It also has anti cancer properties. Don’t believe me that this is the super leaf? Read more here and find great recipes! 

6 tangerines / cuties– These are packed with vitamin C and taste so yummy! Helps balance out the kale with a tangy sweet flavor.

3 carrots – Carrots are full of vitamins and antioxidants, great for your eye sight and taste delicious. More health benefits and recipes for carrots here. 

½ lemon – lemons are high in vitamins, toxins, unwanted minerals and other substances that are pushed out from the body. (Lemon with water is a good morning and evening ritual to pick up for many reasons!) 

1 granny smith apple– Apple a day keeps the doctor away and adds a yummy sweetness to the juice.

2 handfuls of fennel – Fennel is packed with vitamin C, fiber, potassium, health boosters like phytonutrients and antioxidants and other really amazing benefits, especially for women during our least favorite time of the month. Read more benefits and other yummy recipes.

1 inch of gingerSO MANY HEALTH BENEFITS OF GINGER! This is an amazing little root packed with immune boosters, gastrointestinal and anti-inflammatory effects. Besides, it makes everything taste so good.

1 beet – beets are super healthy and add a beautiful color to your juice. I am not a huge fan of the flavor but with all the other delicious fruits and veggies I added make it taste incredible. Read more on beets and be ready to be blown away!

Want to be healthier, happier and have incredibly energy and vitality too? Get Drew Canole’s book for inspiration, information and killer recipes. 

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“Beet Does A Body Good!”  – Linz

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Join the quest to Live More Happy! :) 

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If you have ever taken a health class or even seen a food documentary on Netflix, you already know that the majority of what we regularly put in our body is bad for us. So, why do we do it? It’s easy, fast, convenient and oh, so delicious.

What if being healthy was all of those things?

SURPRISE! It can be. You just have to stop making excuses for yourself, like I did, and find the simple solutions all around us.

I love eating bad. I love donuts, doritos, ice cream, hot dogs and especially carne asada burritos.

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I told myself because I was young, I should eat what I want and that I should enjoy it while I had the metabolism to handle it. I savored every brownie and burger, but I knew that to be healthy, you must eat healthy. I ate like a frat boy until my 24th birthday in December and then said goodbye to my college student diet with a California burrito and a delicious cinnamon sugar monkey bread.

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My dedication to “clean eating” then began with the book, Clean Start, by Terry Walters, given to me as a birthday gift. The book has recipes for all seasons, as well as nutritional information of different foods and the benefits of “clean eating.” Eating clean means removing chemicals and processed foods from your diet, using fewer ingredients and more plants. Aside from being good for you, clean eating is better for the environment by reducing waste, contamination, improves local environment and economy and is simply the quickest way to feeling your best!

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This book took the fear away from the “healthy eating” stigma. The recipes are for things I can do with my little kitchen experience and they look and taste delicious.

 I have learned that a healthy, filling meal can be prepared in under 10 minutes and by spending a little extra time cutting veggies and making my own trail mix of almonds and dried fruit, I could curb my snack cravings throughout the day, while fueling up between meals. I’ve even found ways to trick my tummy into thinking I was eating ice cream in bed, a favorite past time of mine.

Eating clean has been a fun adventure the last month, but it is just the beginning. I acquired a juicer last week, thanks to my friends at FitLife.TV and am loving all the amazing juices filled with veggies and nutrients I am now enjoying daily.  I am falling more in love everyday with my new feelings on food, my energy and glowing skin. (Even my nail technician mentioned my neck and face looked thinner and healthier!)

You don’t need a gym membership or to pay for expensive training or classes to be fit, either. I make all my workouts fun, unique and enjoy the gorgeous outdoors we are blessed with almost year round here in California.

The way to Live More Happy is to Live More Healthy, so follow my journey through the world of healthy living, the easy, inexpensive and fun way!

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